How to re-create yourself one habit at a time

by admin on June 30, 2014

This article will show you how to re-create yourself one step at a time and change your whole set of bad habits to help you become a better version of you.

In a fast pace world of self gratification people are constantly looking to change their way of life. The problem is ,we cannot change who we are and what we do in one day except of course for people who suffers great trauma because of lost of love ones or a serious health problem that could lead to death. But the average human is instill deeply in a set of habits that he has developed since his birth and at a very young age. Of course there are habits of consumptions like smoking, over eating, lack of exercise, sleeping depravation due to stress and alot of work and more. This article will help you pinpoint the habits you want or need to change in order to better yourself in any area of your life.

Dr. James Rouse said: ” Want to improve the health of your diet? Begin by altering just one meal a day. Want a daily meditation practice? Sit silently for one full minute and grow from there. Anything you desire requires you to simply start with one small step.”

One of the major problem we face is personal changes, somehow they are always to big and intimidating, we feel we need to change to a whole new set of behaviors all at onece, but that is not the case. It was proven that small changes on a regular basis could improve immensly in the course of 18 months. Before starting any process to re-create yourself you need to start that ever anoying inner inventory, you know the one where you have to be completely honest with yourself about what you feel you should or shouldn’t do in life.

“The first step to re-create yourself  towards a new you is the most difficult one to take!”

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You’re highly motivated to change, but you still can’t seem to stop behaving in ways you hate. You have excellent problem-solving skills, yet you can’t solve the personal ones that plague you the most. You know that if you do your job well, you’ll probably get a raise and/or a promotion, yet you go ahead and sabotage it. You know that if you’re considerate of people youíll be well liked, yet you can’t stop being rude. You know that if you’re careful about saving and investing your money you’ll probably enjoy a prosperous retirement, yet you spend carelessly. Why can’t you figure out how to change your behavior and so change your life? Why, if what you’re doing is making you unhappy, can’t you stop doing it?

When we have problems that we can’t seem to solve, many of us start thinking that we’re lazy, inexperienced, or maybe even unintelligent. We do this because it’s too scary for us to conclude the alternative. What is the alternative? That it may not be possible for us to be in control of our lives. If it were so easy to be in control, wouldn’t we all just do it? Make the change, stop the pain, live happily?

Free Choice: Do You Really Have It?

This question of whether or not you actually possess free will has been a hot topic for a long, long time. From theologians to philosophers to the parents of teenagers, the question has been discussed and debated ad infinitum. Why? Because free choice and compulsive self-defeating behavior coexist in all of us.

Who Is Fighting for Control of Your Soul?

It’s not only God and the Devil who may be fighting for control of your soul & you’re right in there too. When you can’t believe that you’re behaving just like your parent did even though you promised yourself that you’d be different when you were a parent yourself ,you are entering the fray. People usually assume that they can control their lives because much of the time, by following good advice, by applying rational strategies, or by appreciating the lessons from past experience, they do in fact succeed. Yet, at the same time, many of us also recognize that our free will is limited. We recognize this most often when we come face-to-face with an example of our self-defeating behavior and we know that this behavior hasn’t budged even though we’ve done our best to overcome it. Which leads me to ask . . .

Willpower and Self-Interest: Enough to Make You Change your habits?

When a magazine presents you with Five Easy Steps to Losing Weight, when an audio series offers Four Tapes to Investment Success, and a TV personality does back-to-back shows on The Ins & Outs of Good Parenting,  you know that if you actually had control over life, achieving these goals and improving your life would be as simple as buying a subscription, purchasing some tapes, or turning on the TV. Nice and easy, right? Don’t we wish. But what happens when we do all of the above and we wind up failing anyway? What are we left to believe about ourselves? I’m lazy. I’m stupid. I’m a screwup. But here is something to think about. Were you lazy when you were looking for a special self improvement book on your computer and you went through hundreds of potential matches? Is that what a lazy person does? Were you a screwup when you wanted a job and went out and made sure you got the right training to do it well? Is that what a crewup does? And when it came to learning how to use your new computer and you managed just fine, was that being stupid?

So actually, those reasons won’t work with you across the board, will they? Then what will? Because it is getting pretty frustrating not being able to use your intelligence, your energy, your determination to succeed in all areas of your life. The solution exists and it lies in our hidden self-destructive motivations.

If you could understand the nature of your hidden negative motivations, you could use that information to change. Let’s say you wanted to make yourself more attractive but you lived in a world without mirrors. It would be difficult for you to know what to do. Did you need to improve you hair, your complexion, or your teeth or your skin? These examples show us the important concept: to solve any problem and change your life . . . look for the underlying causes.

People want to be successful and happy in life. Period. So if you find yourself behaving in ways that you hate, getting bad reactions from people around you, and having little success using willpower and advice to change those actions, wouldn’t it seem that something beyond your control is dictating your actions?

You’re like a well-made ship piloted by a captain who forgot to bring the navigation charts on the voyage. All of the captains successes in other areas of his life won’t help him on this particular voyage. The Major Behaviors We Hate let’s roll out our own ships charts and see how to navigate the choppy seas of our lives.

 

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